Eating Your Feelings? Try These Healthier Emotional Eating Alternatives

I see a lot of clients who struggle with emotional eating. When they feel stressed or overwhelmed, they turn to their favorite foods and often feel guilty for not sticking to their diet.

It can take a long time to understand that eating because you’re feeling emotional doesn’t warrant self-flagellation. In fact, it may even be coded in our DNA. Rather than being overly restrictive, you can learn to understand your cravings, make healthier choices, and honor your hunger.

Why Do We Eat Emotionally?

Emotional eating is complicated. It can stem from childhood, when a certain food may have been used as a reward (think chocolate because you cleaned your room). But eating is also associated with love and nurturing from birth, owing to the mother-child bond formed during early feeding. So, the desire for food during periods of heightened emotion isn’t as abnormal as one might think.

Another important factor to consider is that dieting can actually increase cravings and binge eating. Ironically, the more you try to restrict your diet, the more you may crave the foods you’re cutting out of it. That’s why I recommend balance over strict rules to my clients.

Having a piece of chocolate after dinner every day will satisfy your craving, and should keep you from thinking about it all day. If you aren’t feeling deprived, you’ll find you can actually stop after just one piece.

Dr. Matthew Goldenberg, an addiction psychiatrist in Santa Monica, California, says, “The cause and trigger of emotional eating can be positive or negative.” In his experience, people emotionally eat for a variety of reasons.

“Some of my patients will eat to reward themselves,” he says. “They have learned that success and celebration centers on food. Other patients cope with negative emotions, like anxiety, fear, stress, and trauma, by escaping through food.”

People eat emotionally because they’ve developed a connection between an environmental trigger or emotional state and food, Goldenberg explains. “Some [habits are] genetic, some can be learned and modeled from what we saw growing up, and some may have become a part of our routine as we developed.”

Healthier — but Still Comforting — Alternatives to Eating Your Feelings

Let’s first make it clear that food is a great source of pleasure and is meant to be enjoyed. It’s part of life and it’s normal to occasionally eat for comfort, celebration, or other non-hunger-related reasons. This is something that needs to be destigmatized. I often recommend that my clients eat the food they’re craving, especially during social events.

However, if it’s a typical day and you have an urge to grab a common comforting food like chips or sweets, try turning to something that will nourish your body instead. There are so many nutritious versions of your favorite foods out there that really do taste just as good.

Not only can finding healthier swaps for foods that are lower in sugar and higher in nutrients help your body physically, but it can also help relieve you of at least one cause of anxiety during times of stress.

Here are some common foods we all like to indulge in, paired with healthier alternatives. Treat yourself while treating your body and mind with these still-indulgent healthier swaps!

How to Manage Emotional Eating

Dr. Goldenberg says, “The first step is getting honest about needing help. The next step is accepting that help, and surrendering that you cannot do this alone. Fear, stigma and shame often keep individuals from reaching out for the help they need.”

It’s important to know that you’re not in this alone, and some degree of emotional eating can even be normal. However, if you find that you’re eating for non-hunger-related reasons more often than not, or if you’re turning to food as your main coping strategy for difficult emotions, it’s time to address it.

Andrea N. Giancoli, MPH, RD, says, “A healthful and balanced diet is important for our overall health, and mental health. This in itself can help us manage stress better. Sleep is also very important as part of a multipronged approach that includes a balanced diet and exercise.”

Managing emotional eating can be a long journey, but the rewards, health benefits, and improved life balance are well worth it.